5 Ways Daughters Benefit From Having A Working Mom

5 Ways Daughters Benefit From Having A Working Mom fruchtwein women in the U.S. work outside the home, including 71% of motzu sichs with children ages 18 and under.Despite this fact,60% of U.S. adults believe a child fares better with one parent at home.But when I talked to grown-up children who were raised by working mothers, I heard a different story. According to them, their mothers prepared them well for successful, well-rounded adult lives.This was especially true for daughters.Im a working mother who raised two children, one of whom is now a working mother herself, so I know we often feel guilty. But when I interviewed scores of grown children and working mothers, and surveyed mora than 1,000 people ages 23 to 44, I learned that theres no need to feel guilt.Another validation for working mothers is a recentHarvard Business School study that found that women whose mothers worked earn 23%morethan women whose mothers didnt. And men whose mothers worked spent more time helping out at home. The researchers stated that growing up with a working mother is an ideal way to narrow the gender gap.The research I conducted was for my book,My Mother, My Mentor What Grown Children of Working Mothers Want You to Know. It showed definitively that many daughters benefit from having a working mother.Here are 5 big ways that daughters benefit from having moms who work1.InspirationIt was an inspiration to me that my mother worked. I have huge respect for her, recalled one daughter.I found that working mothers have a special impact on their daughters. In my survey, more than half (53%) of daughters strongly agreed they were proud of their working mothers.An interesting statistic Another 20% of the daughters said theyd never even thought about their mothers working, because the fact that they worked was just a normal part of life.2.Strong work ethicGrown children of working mothers, both sons and daughters, said things like, My mother never preached to us, but she taught us the importance of having a strong work ethic by demonstrating it every day.The survey results showed that while growing up, children tend to respect and appreciate the work their mothers do at home and on the job.Fifty percent of the daughters said their working mother had been very helpful in instilling a strong work ethic, versus 32% of daughters whose mothers stayed at home.3.ResilienceThe working mothers I interviewed talked about their desire to give their children the skills to weather problems and difficult situations.As one mother said of her daughter, I wanted her to be able to handle anything that comes her way. I wanted her to be resilient. You never know what is going to happen.Working mothers seemed to feel more strongly about resilience than mothers who stayed at home Forty-seven percent of the daughters with working mothers strongly agreed their mothers had taught them resilience, as opposed to 35% of the daughters whose mothers stayed at home.4.IndependenceMom was less involved, and since my sister and I were not micromanaged, we became more independent, one adult daughter told me.That independence doesnt come only from the fact that a working mother isnt around all the time The adult children I talked to said that their working mothers encouraged independence. As a result, 56% of daughters of working mothers said their mothers had been very helpful in teaching them to be independent, compared to 35% of daughters whose mothers stayed at home.5.A first and lifelong mentorOne adult daughter said her mother had become an even more valuable mentor as she got older Through all of my job searches and the setback of being laid off, my mother keeps telling me she has experienced these personally. She is more supportive now than she ever has been.In the survey, 35% of daughters said their working mothers were very helpful in providing a sounding board, versus 24% of daughters whose mothers stayed at home.Its about choiceWhether a woman works or not is a pe rsonal choice. But if she works, she shouldnt be worried about the impact on her children.Working mothers are doing a great job preparing their children for life. For daughters especially, a working mother is an original role model. Rather than feel guilty, working mothers should feel proud of themselves, because certainly the children are proud of their mothers.--Pamela F. Lenehan was one of the first female partners on Wall Street, a former C-suite executive of an NYSE company and a high-tech startup. An avid believer in the power of women to lead as well as parent, she serves on the boards of three publicly traded firms, and is also the author ofWhat You Dont Know and Your Boss Wont Tell You Advice from Senior Female Executives on What You Need to Succeed. Her newest book isMy Mother, My Mentor What Grown Children of Working Mothers Want You to Know.